small talk at a walimah

[Aishah]

Asalamu alaikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh

Hope you are fine inshAllah..

What would be the best topic (to be covered in 30 mins) for a talk in a wallimah ?

[Turaabie]

Wa 'Alaikum as-Salaam wa-Ramatullaah.

The Rights of the Wife. =)

[Abuz Zubair]

A Shaykh with good sense of humour was once asked to give a short lecture about marriage at a wedding, so he said:

Well, don't you think people get bored of listening to a lecture about marriage every single wedding party they go to?

How about if we talk about divorce for a change?

[Umm Ahmed]

That's nice , I've never been to a walima where anyone gives a talk.

[Abuz Zubair]

That's nice , I've never been to a walima where anyone gives a talk.
That's strange...

in the UK, nearly every Walima comes with a lecture, and nearly all of these lectures are about marriage.

[Umm Ahmed]

That's strange...

in the UK, nearly every Walima comes with a lecture, and nearly all of these lectures are about marriage.

They serve the food , you say mabrook to the bride then thats it . I also dont go to many weddings because of all the music.

[Umm]

That's strange...

in the UK, nearly every Walima comes with a lecture, and nearly all of these lectures are about marriage.

We went to a nikah once, and the talk went on for a good hour! My husband considered asking the brother if he is waiting to be paid in order to stop talking.

Short and sweet is the key.

Try not to have it on the standard boring walimah talks. Will post some suggestions later insha'Allah.

[justabro]

My cousin married a tahriri brother in Pakistan. At the walima, his uncle gave a talk about "the need for khilafat."

[Niqaabis]

Asalamu alaikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh

Hope you are fine inshAllah..

What would be the best topic (to be covered in 30 mins) for a talk in a wallimah ?


wa 'alaikum as salaam

usually you'll find many non practicing muslims attend weddings so its important to try and give them da’wah

something about the purpose of our creation/our goal in life show them getting married is an act of Ibaadah and a means for us to attain jannah

something along those lines maybe

[Wayfarer]

My cousin married a tahriri brother in Pakistan. At the walima, his uncle gave a talk about "the need for khilafat."

That's an easy link to make...marriage --> society --> khilafa

Having said that a tahriri could turn a lesson on how to bake a cake into a khilafa talk.

"If we had a khilafa we wouldn't need to check all our food products with the latest "halal 2007 booklet"!"

[ibnfaruk]

Salams to all, Why not talk about food, and how much we waste on such occasions. We are good at 'stuff init ' or 'waste init' what about thanking the One who gave it.

salams

[umm emman]

weddings r so boring,,, in ourz its always the same.. hmm never heard a lecture though... subhan allah jus loud music panting... they r supposed 2 be segregated, but somehow the men still sneek in... so yup dont like weddings..

[Abuz Zubair]

they r supposed 2 be segregated, but somehow the men still sneek in... so yup dont like weddings..

Yes... I hate that. There is a wedding hall with clear partition, men on the right and women on the left. I don't know what makes some men think they can simply get up, peek into the other side, stare at all the women who have taken off their niqabs, just to look for their own family!

I *really* hate when this happens.

[Umm]

"I'm looking for my wife" that is always their lame excuse for peeping.
Looking for the next one, more like.

[Abu Dharr Al Kashmiri]

No boxed gifts please!:rolleyes:


Or they pretend they have a baby who needs to find its mother and thus stare at as many women as they can in the process!


Well what about the cameramen too? Who allows these greasers to go into the womens area and film the women?

[Skillganon]

I hope you don't mind me saying this,

Although their may me occasoan when someone did not know the proper ettiqutte and are honest with their reason, but usually those men that go into the women section are usually perverts.

[umm emman]

it shud be kept simple... weddings nowadays subhan allah i know ppl who take out loans.. and most of what they do comes from the stupid indian culture anyway.. and the walimah is like 5-6 hourz....

i remember goin 2 a walimah and a ice cream van came... it was so funny he made his money 2.. so i think instead of takin out loans call down an ice cream van...:D

[Umm]

i remember goin 2 a walimah and a ice cream van came... it was so funny he made his money 2.. so i think instead of takin out loans call down an ice cream van...:D

Oh, that is tight. The guests shouldn't pay for the ice-cream. We went to a walima years ago with an ice-cream van, but the groom paid for it all in advance. It's a nice idea.

[UmmAbdulMalikStorm]

A Shaykh with good sense of humour was once asked to give a short lecture about marriage at a wedding, so he said:

Well, don't you think people get bored of listening to a lecture about marriage every single wedding party they go to?

How about if we talk about divorce for a change?

Lol and thats exactly what the shaikh did at my walimah. Talked about divorce and non muslims. I was NOT a happy bunny...nor were the non muslims who attended (some even walked out!)

30 mins is far too long for a speech, it should be kept short and sweet.

[Aishah]

Jazakumullahu khair for all the help..

[Scented Blood]

The Rights of the Wife. =)

Im sure you were joking but I think thats the wrong mentality to have.
We have become a nation of me,me,me! Rather then searching far and wide for any hadith or saying that we can go home and beat our partners with wouldnt it be better if was to learn their rights so that we can do everything to try to fufil them?
If we are to held acountable is it not better to enter Jannah knowing that none had any complaints rather then making sure your wife had pressed your shirt,fed the baby, looked good for you and cleaned the kitchen floor with a toothbrush while you watched telly.
If everyone started to check themselves there would be less issues rather then screaming for your rights but being so flippant about giving others theirs.

[Scented Blood]

"I'm looking for my wife" that is always their lame excuse for peeping.
Looking for the next one, more like.

Ive been chuckling for an hour over that...

[Turaabie]

Im sure you were joking but I think thats the wrong mentality to have.
We have become a nation of me,me,me! Rather then searching far and wide for any hadith or saying that we can go home and beat our partners with wouldnt it be better if was to learn their rights so that we can do everything to try to fufil them?
If we are to held acountable is it not better to enter Jannah knowing that none had any complaints rather then making sure your wife had pressed your shirt,fed the baby, looked good for you and cleaned the kitchen floor with a toothbrush while you watched telly.
If everyone started to check themselves there would be less issues rather then screaming for your rights but being so flippant about giving others theirs.

Er, yeah i was joking.. You took my reply to a whole different level.. Khayr.

[B. Rashaad]

That's an easy link to make...marriage --> society --> khilafa

Having said that a tahriri could turn a lesson on how to bake a cake into a khilafa talk.

"If we had a khilafa we wouldn't need to check all our food products with the latest "halal 2007 booklet"!"

Yup even in math, you can make a link between geometry and khilaafah.

[B. Rashaad]

As for the sister who started this thread, I agree with the ikhwah about it being shot and and sweet. It shouldn't take more than 5 minuttes and max 10 minuttes. I once had to give a talk and al-hamdu lillah it was short and nice and people were still awake and active afterwards. If you like, I can pm you the talk?

[Captain]

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