Why are good looking girls always immodest?

[JayshAllah]

Please explain.

[Umm Ayesha]

I think Allah has made everyone good looking, real beauty is in the heart

[Umm Ayesha]

These girls just put on lots of make up etc. to beautify themselves anyone can do that and look pretty

[aburasheed]

Such a strong language you're using Brother JayshAllah. Is that the *only* criteria you're looking for in a woman? Is not good to generalize things, you may not have been looking in the right places.

[MosDef]

you may not have been looking in the right places.

Quite right :)

[Um Abdullah M.]

don't generalize bro

not all good looking girls are like that.
also, people are different in what they believe is "good looking".
some might think a certain girl looks good, and another thinks she looks ok, but not really beautiful.

and I am curious to know the reason for your question if you don't mind?

[Niqaabis]

Please explain.


Strange statement

How do you know girls who cover up and preserve their chastity are not good looking?

[ibn 'abd al-jabbaar]

as-salaamu 'alaikum

Please explain.

an unwisely worded question bro... :rolleyes:

[umm emman]

everything from our lord is a gift, including beauty. alhumdulillah.

women who have taqwaa of their lord and have modesty will inshaAllah preserve that, and may allah swt preserve me and my sisters in faith ameen.

but some women tend to abuse that. and the best thing a brother can do is lower his gaze seek allahs refuge and turn away..

[Umm]

It is quite a simplistic statement. It's like asking: why is a good looking man/woman vain? Because they get attention.

Why are good looking girls always immodest?
Not always, but you could say, Why are many good looking girls?
Again, it's not rocket science, because it gets attention.

[WM]

Strange statement

How do you know girls who cover up and preserve their chastity are not good looking?

You hit the nail on the head.

[justabro]

this question is akin to someone asking

how come the dweebs who cant get girls always whine like them?or a more serious charge:

how come these so-called religious guys with beards always stare at girls

[JayshAllah]

Sorry, people. Just frustrated.

-Desperate Brother Crew (DBC)

[Abuz Zubair]

You know, sometimes some things are so blinking obvious that they needn't explicitly stated? :) May Allah help you.

[Milk Shaykh]

May Allah bless you with a beautiful Modest wife. Aameen.

[gag order]

too many brothers it seems confuse 'beauty' with 'attractive'

[muwahhid786]

I say go back to the motherland and get a wifey from there. Many of the ones here got some issues.

[waziri]

I say go back to the motherland and get a wifey from there. Many of the ones here got some issues.

Akhi Jaysh is a revert so his motherland is usa I think.

[Umm]

I say go back to the motherland and get a wifey from there. Many of the ones here got some issues.

Akh, down here, only desperate brothers do that. Or ones who are pressurised by their families to marry their non-practicing cousins, and give into the emotional blackmail. It is very rare to get one from "back home" who is practicing properly and segregates from non-mahrams. I have seen some disasterous "back-home jobs"

[Umm Ayesha]

^agrees

It shouldn't really matter where you get married.. just as long as the sis is practising and compatible with you. don't generalise bro muwahhid by saying many of the sisters have issues here.. many back home got issues too

[Abu GG]

Trust me man, there's loadsa modest hot girls. U js need to get a bit better connected. come chill with me for a day ill show u some talent u wont forget :D

[gag order]

that was a real belly laugh :D

[WM]

'talent'?

What are you, a pimp?

[Abu GG]

'talent'?

What are you, a pimp?

:eek:

:eek:

[Skillganon]

Trust me man, there's loadsa modest hot girls. U js need to get a bit better connected. come chill with me for a day ill show u some talent u wont forget :D

lol Jokes.

[muwahhid786]

The combination of a beautiful and religious girl is hard to find no matter where you go but atleast the chances of getting a beautiful girl back home is greater than here for the mere fact that there are less Muslim sister available to choose from here.

And Abu GG quit playing around. It aint funny for the others who dont have what you have.

[SAINT GEORGE OF ARABIA]

Please explain.

who said all not so good looking girls are pious

tawfeeq is from Allah and there are among us those who worship their own evil desires and opened a wide door for shaytan to own their minds.


surah 24 noor verse 21.... pufirication is the key

[SAINT GEORGE OF ARABIA]

The combination of a beautiful and religious girl is hard to find no matter where you go but atleast the chances of getting a beautiful girl back home is greater than here for the mere fact that there are less Muslim sister available to choose from here.

And Abu GG quit playing around. It aint funny for the others who dont have what you have.


what a dunya topic?


Allahu musta'an!!!

you can find a very pretty girl, hafeeza quran with great tarbiya if you look hard. unfortunately in some part of the world, parents will prefer to send their pretty daughters to model school, any career that will display their beauty for living..... madrassah can wait.

it's all about following evil desires

[Niqaabis]

It's piety that makes you beautiful, so focus on finding that and the rest will fall in to place

[ibnfaruk]

Assalamualaikum to all, bro its all relative to what you define as beauty, so in most cases it is a subjective construct in your mind that is governed by what you desire. If you desire a beautiful woman that fits your definition of beauty then thats fine, may Allah swt help to find that, but bare in mind beauty can be superficial if not applied in the comprehensive sense i.e as a hole, the persons all round characteristics and personality is generally a constant in human relationships, a persons physical features will always fade whether you like it or not.

So my brother seek the pious, God fearing woman who will love you as Khadijah ( may Allah be pleased with her)loved Muhammad ( peace and blessings be upon him)

Allah swt knows best

salams

[JayshAllah]

The combination of a beautiful and religious girl is hard to find

Word to Big Bird.

Almost every girl nowadays has a got a past history (of relationships) the length of a novel.

It's too hard to find the combo of looks and haya/deen. :'(

[WM]

I don't think I'll ever get married :(

[Niqaabis]

It's too hard to find the combo of looks and haya/deen. :'(

Maybe you should ask yourself
Do I have all those things in myself?

[MosDef]

Almost every girl nowadays has a got a past history (of relationships) the length of a novel.

How many of the Prophet's sallallahu alaihi wa sallam wives were widows? Why are previous relationships such a big issue?

In the society we live in some women may also have previous relationships in their days of Jahilyah - same as men.

As brothers we must try to become Men.

[Abuz Zubair]

The hypocrisy I don't like amongst the brothers is that during their jahiliya days they would have girlfriends, and even Muslim ones! Yet, when they become practising, they don't want to marry sisters from the UK because most of them apparently have a past (by which they meant that they all went to Uni!) so for themselves they want to marry desi sisters, whilst they forget that they didn't have a clean past either, and in most cases, worst past than many sisters in the UK.

[Niqaabis]

it's not only the practicing brothers that do that the non practicing men do that too

they'll mess around with loads of different girls...but when the time comes for marriage they want to settle down and marry a good 'practacing' girl

Allaahul musta'an

I feel sorry for the girls who fall to their prey because in the end they’re just being used

[juwairiyah]

Assalamo'alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Pray to Allah especially at times when du'a is answered

may Allah grant u a pious and compatible sis soon ameen

[umm emman]

: “Lo! men who surrender unto Allah, and women who surrender, and men who believe and women who believe, and men who obey and women who obey, and men who speak the truth and women who speak the truth, and men who persevere (in righteousness) and women who persevere, and men who are humble and women who are humble, and men who give alms and women who give alms, and men who fast and women who fast, and men who guard their modesty and women who guard (their modesty), and men who remember Allah much and women who remember - Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a vast reward.” [ Sûrah al-Ahzâb : 35]

[abu_ibrahim]

it's not only the practicing brothers that do that the non practicing men do that too

they'll mess around with loads of different girls...but when the time comes for marriage they want to settle down and marry a good 'practacing' girl

Allaahul musta'an

I feel sorry for the girls who fall to their prey because in the end they’re just being used

Why do you feel the girls are the victims somehow. If you been to University, then you would see they are as much to blame as the guys.

[Niqaabis]

Why do you feel the girls are the victims somehow. If you been to University, then you would see they are as much to blame as the guys.

Im not justifying what they did

and yes they are to blame as much as the men

but at the same time I cant help feeling sorry for them, that's just how I am

I don’t have it in my heart to hate people and when they make a mistake and I see them suffering from this mistake, it does upset me and I pray through this that they are guided

[Abu Ilyas]

The hypocrisy I don't like amongst the brothers is that during their jahiliya days they would have girlfriends, and even Muslim ones! Yet, when they become practising, they don't want to marry sisters from the UK because most of them apparently have a past (by which they meant that they all went to Uni!) so for themselves they want to marry desi sisters, whilst they forget that they didn't have a clean past either, and in most cases, worst past than many sisters in the UK.

lol...yeah thats true but also totally natural for a man to feel like that.

As for the brothers who are finding it difficult to find a sister who has both hayaa / deen and beauty then:

1) One possible reason is you are doing too many sins so Allah is withholding that from you.

2) Be very careful with the beauty thing, if you real attraction for her was for that reason, when her beauty lessens, which obviously it will do with age,your happiness is over. Marry her for her deen and the beauty of her character, which insha'allah will endure.

3) No problem looking for physical beauty though, perfectly natural for a brother to think about these things. You dont have to be good looking yourself just have loads of money ;)

[gag order]

theres no denying that good looks are important but equally important is the personality. when your annoyed with someone, beauty takes a back seat.

also good looks fading with age is not really a concern at all since that is a long way off, its the familiarity that settles in soon after that makes you look beyond beauty.

quite often you dont know what you first saw in them, someone may appear beautiful when you dont know them, but once you do its the personality that keeps you keen (or drives you insane).

they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in many ways its true, a matter of perception. some claim that beautiful hijabis (meaning attractive) are rare but you wouldnt say that if they had on display, layered hair, lip gloss, eye shadow and kitted out in revealing western gear, you would say wow she's beautiful.

important thing to remember is dont expect too much or you will be disspointed becos looks are just not enough to prevent you from getting annoyed with a lack of personality.

[UmmAbdulMalikStorm]

We're not immodest!!

(lol do u get it??)

Honestly, what a useless thread. I hope u get married soon inshallah.

Maybe you should ask yourself
Do I have all those things in myself?

True say.

[Skillganon]

We're not immodest!!

(lol do u get it??)

Honestly, what a useless thread. I hope u get married soon inshallah.



True say.

I hope he does get married Inshallah

[salafiya]

Why do you feel the girls are the victims somehow. If you been to University, then you would see they are as much to blame as the guys.

I think it's because the guy can still marry almost anyone he wants without too much of a problem. But a girl...once word gets out about all of the haraam stuff she did with guys, her honor is ruined. Even if she repents more sincerely than a guy who did that stuff, people just really don't care nowadays. So in the end, as niqaabis said, she is the one who is being used (I know that it takes two to tango and am in no way declaring her innocent of the sins)

[Umm Ahmed]

Maybe the shaytaan makes you think the immodest girls are pretty , by the clothes and make up they wear, but your wife can also wear all of that just for you in the privacy of your home. If your looking at a sisters whose faces might seem plain then thats a requirement of her when she is outside , you havent seen her with her hair down and smiling and in brighter clothes.

May Allaah grant you all good spouses ameen.

[Abu Dharr Al Kashmiri]

Marriage season, i have wedding cards littered at home...

you can find some gems back home, but be patient for the visa:eek: ...i mean she has to be over 22 and sing the british anthem etc etc.....

Marriage is an issue and a problem today in the west, you see many brothers and sisters are in their late 20's even early 30's and still not married.

Sisters are waiting for the pious, Aabid, Zaahid, Mujahid to turn up and the brothers are waiting for a model type, masterchef, arab habibtiz!

The days of the pious predecessors seem so far when young marriages took place to preserve chasitity and purity in the societies, be they single divorced or with kids, when fathers and brothers would offer females in their homes to pious brothers, where are those brothers and fathers today....:rolleyes:


WAllahu Aalim

[umm emman]

The days of the pious predecessors seem so far when young marriages took place to preserve chasitity and purity in the societies, be they single divorced or with kids, when fathers and brothers would offer females in their homes to pious brothers, where are those brothers and fathers today


subhan allah so true.. its such a shame..

[Skillganon]

Salam

I believe all my sisters in Hijab are beutiful.

[Abu Dharr Al Kashmiri]

^yes - only for their husbands!

subhan allah so true.. its such a shame..

...yes its a harsh reality.

maybe brothers and fathers will make my inbox to be full by the next tym i log in?! :cool:

Night night single brothers - do remember us all in your tahajjud adiyah!

Wassalaam

[juwairiyah]

Assalamo'alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabraakatuh

Marriage is an issue and a problem today in the west

Alhamdulillahi rabbil 'alameen

It's an issue everywhere not only west

Piety has become rare that's the reason poor sisters are waiting ,waiting and waiting for the right man...

Sisters are outnumbering brothers thats another problem

may Allah hasten the marriages of all the brothers and sisters ameen