matrimonials at islamicawakening

[siratal mustaqeem]

Assalaamu Alaikum,

Does Islamic Awakening have a matrimonial section?

...maybe for those in US also...

I hate to say this but for those brothers that are living in US, its probably better to marry a revert/convert sister then one from the same ethnic background or from a Muslim background for that matter. I mean good luck marrying a desi or arab sister whose family requires u to be an engineer or doctor and God forbid for u to live in an apartment!

Subhanallah, American reverts families are less of an issue when it comes to such superficialities.

Can we initiate some kind of halal matrimonials?

[Umm Ahmed]

Wa 'alaykumusalaam

Please read the rules and regulations especially number 5.

In regards to your comments , while I am sure that there might be some parents who want too much for their daughter in way of wordly things.
I am sure not all of them are like that .
Make Du'aa in the last hours of the night and especially throughout this month and InshaAllaah you will find a good sister.

[siratal mustaqeem]

Barakallahu feekum

My sincere apologies for the post!

Seems as if though this is the only place where we have brothers and sisters w/ the right Islamic outlook...unfortunately. So much Jahiliya among the Muslims its heart bleeding.


I will refrain from visiting the aforementioned topic.
Please make dua for all the Muslims and humanity.

Allaah (swt) guides whom HE (swt) wills

[JayshAllah]

Assalaamu Alaikum,

Does Islamic Awakening have a matrimonial section?

...maybe for those in US also...

I hate to say this but for those brothers that are living in US, its probably better to marry a revert/convert sister then one from the same ethnic background or from a Muslim background for that matter. I mean good luck marrying a desi or arab sister whose family requires u to be an engineer or doctor and God forbid for u to live in an apartment!

Subhanallah, American reverts families are less of an issue when it comes to such superficialities.

Can we initiate some kind of halal matrimonials?

I hate it when people make such childish and exceedingly immature generalizations. No, convert girls are not "better" than desi or Arab sisters. What a load of crap. I guess you are mentioning their families, but please, let's be serious now: I've seen converts whose families HATE the fact that the girl converted to Islam, and then seek to subterfuge the marriage in any way they can.

While we are making generalizations, then let it be known that desis have a stronger family structure/unit...in the West it is very common for a man and woman to let their parents rot in nursing homes.

And of course that in itself is a generalization. My point is that I am sick of self-hating desis (are you one?)...If you are not a doctor or engineer, then what are you? By the way, we are not living in the time of the Prophet [s] in which poor people remained poor and rich remained rich...this is a time now in which you can study, work hard, and climb the ladder...so a lot of times I see whiny faced youths claiming that parents are being superficial when they judge them for them not excelling in studies/career...is it that they are being judgmental or is it that you were too lazy to study hard and excel in life?

Sorry for going off on you, but it really irks me when people insinuate that 'converts' are better than 'born Muslims.' I've heard this way too much and it's WAY off the mark.

You say 'good luck' marrying a desi Muslim...I say 'good luck' marrying a white convert girl who would laugh at you when you ask her for dinner...

[Umm Ahmed]

I say 'good luck' marrying a white convert girl who would laugh at you when you ask her for dinner...

Lots of sisters nowadays say that to their husbands due to the femminist movement, and career driven muslimahs Thats why you should always marry a sister for her religion then she wont laugh at anything you ask her to do InshaAllaah.

[Skillganon]

Well said sis Umm Ahmad.

[Um Abdullah M.]

there are good and bad girls in every nationality and race

so lets not attack any group, race or nationality.

just search for a good girl whose family is not too strict in worldly matters.

alhamdulillah my family didn't care much about that stuff most important thing is deen and my father is an arab and mother a convert, so I have from both, and alhamdulillah I am blessed with a good husband.

like sister Um Ahmad said, stay up at night praying and making duaa to Allah.

[Um Abdullah M.]

Lots of sisters nowadays say that to their husbands due to the femminist movement, and career driven muslimahs Thats why you should always marry a sister for her religion then she wont laugh at anything you ask her to do InshaAllaah.

sister just wanted to tell you I love you for sake of Allah : )

p.s. has nothing to do with this topic

[siratal mustaqeem]

Assalaamu Alaikum Br. J,

Barakallahu feekum for your input. I think you misunderstood my points which was my fault because I didn't elaborate on 'em.

I did not intend to say desi sisters are better then arab sisters or convert sisters are better then sisters from abroad. I love our sisters in Islam whereever they maybe from. Race has NEVER been a factor for me in choosing my mate. If it was up to me, I'd have 4 wives all from different ethnicities!

My issue was with the way the family structure or rather, the way the culture is set up when it comes to marriage - or to be more specific, I was referring to the hardles that families put up. Definitely, it is something that we Muslims from abroad can learn from the kafirs. You have your preference and I have mines and you might be speaking from your experience as I am speaking from what I have seen.

I understand all of your points and they hold great merit. But me personally, (and yes I am in college and work and support myself...not the case for my 99% of desi or arab friends) I have always worked since my high school days and can easily maintain my own apartment as I have done through out college. And with the Will of Allaah, upon graduation I will have no problem landing a good job.
However, I have also seen many good hearted and hard working brothers from our background who have meager means but urgently want to save their deen and want and need that companionship but unfortunately, their cries are often not heard and ignored. It is a prime example of when the halal becomes so much difficult and the haram is bashing its tail around every corner.

In my opinion, it is a serious epidemic that parents are not only oblivious to but can be guilty of being insensitive and down right cruel! May Allaah forgive them!

Again, in my example I was referring to how easy it is for people born of American culture or even perhaps the British culture, and how easily they are able to date even as early as during the primary schooling..with many times the support and blessings of their parents!

Good luck again telling your parents that you want to get married in college and go to school at the same time with your mate. I don't see anything more blissful then going to college with ones wife or husband - it should be an additional incentive to work harder....perhaps one of the many wisdoms by our beloved Messenger of Allaah who called for early marriages!

And I am sure I can expand on these points abit more, but I have some school work to do now

ps. im not "self hating" desi for i have never really thought about myself as desi...what ever desi means...i grew up and was raised in states and i think of myself as more american then any other culture....but i hate jahiliya w/ passion whereever it might take root...and if it is in the desi culture, i make sure to expose it and bash it at will and where there is something good about the desi culture (which there is) i hold on to it firmly and advocate it...

pps. i suspect your really hungry today lol

[Umm Ahmed]

sister just wanted to tell you I love you for sake of Allah : )

p.s. has nothing to do with this topic

May Allaah love the one who loves me for his sake ameen : )