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This is a discussion on The true reality of marriage within the Marriage forums, part of the Family Life category; Ibn Taymiyyah (رحمه الله) reported in Majmoo' al-fataawa that Umar ibn al-Khattaab (رضي الله عنه) said: "Marriage is slavery, so ...

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    Ibn Taymiyyah (رحمه الله) reported in Majmoo' al-fataawa that Umar ibn al-Khattaab (رضي الله عنه) said: "Marriage is slavery, so be careful in regards to whom you give your daughters to." And the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: "I urge you to treat women well, for they are prisoners with you." (Tirmidhi)

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    Jazak Allahu khayran but marriage in Islam needs to be understood as a whole. Someone seeing just these two narrations and nothing else will get a very wrong impression.

    I don't think it's a good idea to call this 'the true reality of marriage' due to that, wAllahu A'lam.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 'Abd al-Kareem View Post
    Jazak Allahu khayran but marriage in Islam needs to be understood as a whole. Someone seeing just these two narrations and nothing else will get a very wrong impression.

    I don't think it's a good idea to call this 'the true reality of marriage' due to that, wAllahu A'lam.
    No doubt brother, this is just the start of the thread. More posts to follow iA.

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    I should stamp this on the foreheads of brothers who prattle on about marriage... during sweltering summer days...

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    Shaykh headache al-everydayee said:

    "marriage is like my name"
    "Sit with one whose limbs address you, not his mouth." Sahl ibn `Abd Allah ibn Yunus, Abu Muhammad al-Tustari (d. 283), may Allah be well-pleased with him.

    قال إبن عمر: "ولا يكن في قولك فضل على فعلك" ,أخرج البيهقي: شعب الإيمان وابن حجر العسقلاني: الإصابة في تمييز الصحابة

    Ibn 'Umar said: "And do not let your words be in excess to your actions", Al-Baihaqi: Shu'ab al-Imaan and Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani: Al-Isaabah fee Taymeez as-Sahaaba



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    Is marriage a word or a sentence?
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    Both husband and wife have to be patient and put up with one another, because everyone makes mistakes, and the one with whom you have to be patient with the most is the one with whom you live and interact with most. Neither party should resort to tit-for-tat reactions. If one spouse sees that the other is very angry, he or she should restrain his or her own anger, and not respond immediately. For this reason Abul-Darda' said to his wife: "If you see me angry, calm me down, and if I see you angry, I will calm you down, otherwise it will be too difficult to live together."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wild Wild West View Post
    Is marriage a word or a sentence?

    What?
    Ali ibn Abi Talib once said ''Do not take someones silence as his pride, perhaps he is busy fighting with his self''

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    Both rofl!!!!!!
    "Sit with one whose limbs address you, not his mouth." Sahl ibn `Abd Allah ibn Yunus, Abu Muhammad al-Tustari (d. 283), may Allah be well-pleased with him.

    قال إبن عمر: "ولا يكن في قولك فضل على فعلك" ,أخرج البيهقي: شعب الإيمان وابن حجر العسقلاني: الإصابة في تمييز الصحابة

    Ibn 'Umar said: "And do not let your words be in excess to your actions", Al-Baihaqi: Shu'ab al-Imaan and Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani: Al-Isaabah fee Taymeez as-Sahaaba



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    Asalaamu Alaikum,

    I don't know the authenticity of this narration, Inshallah someone can confirm, but it's very nicely put;


    It was narrated that a man consulted ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him, about divorcing his wife and ‘Umar said to him: “Do not do so.”

    “I do not love her,” the man argued.

    ‘Umar may Allah be pleased with him said, “Are families built only on love? Where is, then, mutual care and the maintenance of rights and duties?”


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