Tips for the muslim woman & her home

Discussion in 'Family Life' started by Мармеладка, Apr 24, 2009.

  1. [FONT=verdana, helvetica, sans-serif]TIPS FOR THE MUSLIM WOMAN & HER HOME
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]What does the home represent to each one of us ? Isnt it not the place where one eats, rests, and enjoys the company of his family members? If we think about those who are homeless, or living in shelters, or as refuges scattered in temporary places, then we will realize the blessings of our home. [/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]There are many motives for the believer to put their homes in order:[/FONT]
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]1. Protecting oneself and the family from the fire of Hell, and keeping them safe from the Allahs punishment. [/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]2. The great responsibility borne by the head of the household on the day of judgment.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]3. The home is a safe haven to protect us from evils and keep ones own evils from people, it is a refuge prescribed by Islam at times of fitnah (tribulation) .[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]4. The home shares a big part of the human life, and therefore maintaining a healthy home provides a good environment to spend the time in the worship of Allah, and refraining from wrongdoing. [/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]5. The home is an essential part of building the strong blocks for the Muslim society.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Following are tips to help you revive and strengthen your Muslim home:[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Make Your Home a Place For the Remembrance of Allah[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Revive your homes with all kinds of Dhikr. [/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"The likeness of a house in which Allah is remembered and the house in which Allah is not remembered is that of the living and the dead, respectively. "[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]We must make our homes places where Allah is remembered in all kinds of ways, whether in our hearts, verbally, during prayer, by reading Quran, by discussing Islamic issues, or by reading different kinds of Islamic books.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Help Your Family Increase Their Faith[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Encourage your house members to pray, fast, give charity as means of increasing faith.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays, then he wakes up his wife to pray, and if she refuses he throws water on her face." (Ahmad and Abu Dawud)[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Have a box at home for donations to the poor and needy: whatever is put in the box belongs to them, because it is their vessel in the Muslim home.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]If the family members see an example among them fasting on al-Ayyam al-Bid (the 13th, 14th and 15th of each Hijri month), Mondays and Thursdays, Tasuaa and Ashura (the 9th and 10th of Muharram), Arafah, and frequently in Muharram and Shaaban, this will be a motive for them to do likewise.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Learn Supplications Related to Home[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]The messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"When any one of you enters his home and mentions the Name of Allah when he enters and when he eats, the Shaytan says: 'You have no place to stay and nothing to eat here.' If he enters and does not mention the name of Allah when he enters, [the Shaytan] says, 'You have a place to stay.' If he does not mention the name of Allah when he eats, [the Shaytan says], 'You have a place to stay and something to eat.'". (Ahmad)[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"If a man goes out of his house and says, 'Bismillah, Tawakkaltu Ala Allah, La Hawla Wa La Quwwata Illa Billah (In the name of Allah, I put my trust in Allah, there is no help and no strength except in Allah),' it will be said to him, 'This will take care of you, you are guided, you have what you need and you are protected.' The Shaytan will stay away from him, and another Shaytan will say to him, 'What can you do with a man who is guided, provided for and protected?'" [/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif](Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)[/FONT]
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Aishah said:
    "When the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) entered his house, the first thing he would do was use Siwak." (Muslim)
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    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Continuously Recite Surah Al-Baqarah to Ward Off Shaytan[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"Do not make your houses into graves. The Shaytan flees from a house in which Surat al- Baqarah is recited." (Muslim)[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Concerning the virtues of the last two Ayat of this Surah, and the effect of reciting them in ones house, he (peace be upon him) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"Allah wrote a document two thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth, which is kept near the Throne, and He revealed two Ayat of it with which He concluded Surat al-Baqarah. If they are recited in a house for three consecutive nights, the Shaytan will not approach it." (Ahmad)[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Teach Your Family[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Allah says:
    "O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones..."
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Allocate some time for the family, and even for others such as relatives, to hold a study-circle at home and encourage them to come regularly, so that it will be an ongoing commitment for you and them.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Build Your Islamic Library[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]It does not have to be extensive; what matters is choosing good books, putting them in a place where they are readily accessible, and encouraging family members to read them.[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Include books of varying levels, so that old and young, men and women can all use them.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Also have books for giving to guests, childrens friends and family visitors, but try to get books that are attractively presented, edited properly and with the sources and classification of the Hadiths properly given.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]One way in which you can help family members find a book when they want it is to organize the books according to subject, Tafsir, Hadith, Fiqh ..etc.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Have a Home Audio Library[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Having a cassette player in every home may be used for good or for evil.[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]How can we use it in a manner that is pleasing to Allah? Having a home audio library containing good Islamic tapes by scholars who are striving to raise the awareness of the Ummah, establish proof and denounce evil is very important for establishing individual personalities in the Muslim home.[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Listening to Quran recitation will have a great impact on family members, whether by reflecting on the meaning, or help memorizing it.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Invite Righteous People and Seekers of Knowledge to Visit Your Home[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men and women...". [Nuh 71:28][/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]If people of faith enter your home, it will increase in light (Nur), and will bring many benefits because of your conversations and discussion with them.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]The bearer of musk will either give you some, or you will buy from him, or you will find that he has a pleasant scent.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]When children, brothers and parents sit with such visitors, and women listen from behind a curtain or screen to what is said, this offers an educational experience to all.[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]If you bring good people into your home, by doing so you keep bad people from coming in a wreaking havoc.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Avoid Showing Family Conflicts In Front of Others[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]It is rare for people to live together under one roof without any arguments, but reconciliation is better and correcting oneself is a virtue.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]What shakes the unity of the family and harms its infrastructure is when conflicts are brought out into the open before the members of the family, who then split into two or more opposing camps, not to mention the psychological harm that is done to children, especially little ones.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Think about a home where the father says to the child, "Do not speak to your mother," and the mother says to him, "Do not speak to your father."[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]The child is confused and filled with turmoil, and the entire family lives in an atmosphere of hostility. We should try to avoid conflict, but if it happens, we should try to hide it.[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]We ask Allah to create love between our hearts.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Have a Schedule for Meals And Bedtime[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]There is nothing nicer than a family gathering together at the table and making the most of this opportunity to ask how everyone is and to discuss useful topics.[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Spread Kindness in the Home[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 'When Allah - may He be glorified - wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.' ".[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]This is one of the means of attaining happiness in the home, for kindness is very beneficial between the family members, and brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"Allah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for anything else." (Muslim)[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Be Affectionate[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Showing affection towards family members is one of the things that lead to creating an atmosphere of happiness and friendliness in the home.[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]The prophet (peace be upon him) used to show his affection towards his wives, children and everyone around. [/FONT]
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Abu Hurairah said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) kissed al-Hasan ibn Ali, and al-Aqra ibn Habis At-Tamimi was sitting with him. Al-Aqra said: 'I have ten children and I have never kissed any one of them.' The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) looked at him and said: 'The one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.'"[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Resist Bad Manners in The Home[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Every member of the household is bound to have some bad characteristics, such as lying, backbiting, gossiping and so on. These bad characteristics have to be resisted and opposed. [/FONT]
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Aishah said:[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]"If the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came to know that one of his household had told a lie, he would try to ignore him until he repented." (Ahmad)[/FONT]
    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Shield Your Home Against Common or Hidden Evils[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Beware of non-Mahram relatives entering upon women when their husbands are absent.
    Men and women should sit separately during family visits.
    Beware of the dangers of having male drivers and female servants in the house.
    Beware of the dangers of TV.
    Beware of the evils of the telephone.
    Remove everything that contains symbols of the false religions of the Kuffar or their gods and objects of worship.
    Remove pictures of animate beings.
    Do not allow smoking in your homes.
    Do not keep dogs in your homes.
    Avoid too much decoration in your homes (keep it simple).
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    • [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]Pay Attention to Familys Health and Safety[/FONT]
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]When any member of his family got sick, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) would blow on them and recite al-Muwidhatayn (last two Surahs of the Quran). (Muslim)[/FONT]

    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]When one of his family members got sick, he would call for soup, and it would be made for him, then he would tell them to drink it, and he would say, "It will strengthen the heart of the one who is grieving and cleanse (heal) the heart of the one who is sick just as any one of you wipes the dirt from her face." (Tirmidhi)[/FONT]
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    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif]From "40 Recommendations for the Muslim Home" by Sheikh Muhammad Al-Munajjid[/FONT]
     
  2. Medean Heritage

    Medean Heritage New Member

    Salaamun 'alaykum.

    Jazaakillaahu khayran for your contributions.

    Just a suggestion if it's okay... I've seen a lot of these "sister-appealing" threads and at times (though not necessarily this one) they're controversial and ignite endless discussion/arguing between the opposite genders. Shouldn't threads of this nature just be placed in the sisters' section, seeing as 1) we are more free to speak and express what's on our mind (a lot of things you can't express on the mixed forum which sometimes leaves things in a mess and gives out the wrong idea) thereby reaching some sort of understanding and 2) with no "audience" it will most likely reduce tensions and make us more susceptible to the other's opinion/input.

    Like I said, this thread is not necessarily "provocative", I just think it would better for it to be placed in the sisters' section.

    Again jazakillaahu khayran for your contributions and I hope you don't take offence by what I said.
     
  3. 1travellingstranger

    1travellingstranger New Member

    Allhumdulilah this thread provided me with a stunning reminder that i can revive and share, if it was in the sisters section i wouldnt have known..

    بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
    Bismillaah-ir-Rahmaan-ir-Raheem.

    الْحَمْدُ للَّهِ عَلَى كُلِّ حَالٍ
    Praise is to Allah under all circumstances


    Walking out of your home...



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    Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
    "If a man goes out of his house and says, 'Bismillah, Tawakkaltu Ala Allah, La Hawla Wa La Quwwata Illa Billah (In the name of Allah, I put my trust in Allah, there is no help and no strength except in Allah),' it will be said to him,
    'This will take care of you, you are guided, you have what you need and you are protected.' The Shaytan will stay away from him, and another Shaytan will say to him, 'What can you do with a man who is guided, provided for and protected?'"
    [FONT=garamond, new york, times, serif](Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)[/FONT]
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  4. Moumina

    Moumina Bent al Haqq wa'l Qulb

    Jazakallah khayrun.:)
     

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